Adultery
I am not a “preview” kind of girl. When it comes to movies (especially movies) and books, I avoid the synopsis and the trailers and the previews. I can remember going to see the movie Titanic. I had not seen one single preview. I like going in blind. I want to be surprised and I don’t want to happen upon anything related to the movie….at … Continue reading A little reading
I had a hair appointment today. My stylist is going through a divorce. And when I’m there she tends to bend my ear about it and ask for my thoughts. More than once she has told me how lucky I am that my husband is so great and would never do that. Every time she says this it puts me directly on top of the … Continue reading Standing firm
My husband likes to make breakfast on the weekends for all of us. And it’s nice for me to have a break from cooking on the weekends. So, every Saturday morning he digs out the big electric griddle and the big stove griddle to make pancakes and eggs and sausage and bacon. We all love bacon. He loves bacon. He absolutely hates making the bacon. … Continue reading Soap and water
My husband and I were working a puzzle and listening to music over the weekend. We were just talking about random stuff. He knows I have a blog about the affair and has read some of it. I jokingly asked him if he ever read it anymore. He said he hadn’t in a while. I told him that if he had a blog I would … Continue reading As it turns out…..
When it comes to marriage we all have a “fantasy self”. What’s a fantasy self? Typically it’s a head full of things you believe should be true about marriage, especially your own marriage. This fantasy of marriage and what it should be is suggestively put into our minds by TV and books over our lifetime. We see on the screen or in print what is … Continue reading Fantasy and Real
I would say the majority of blogs I read regarding infidelity spend a lot of time bashing the offender and the OW. There is a reason I do not do that as the norm. First of all, if your husband cheats on you I think it’s pretty obvious that you’re upset with him and the OW. Putting it down in words is not going to … Continue reading I learned to be me
Last night while perusing YouTube I clicked on a headline that read something like “My husband blindsided me after 25 years of marriage”. I typically never would click on something like this because I know these you tubers tend to hype up things to get views. But, anyway, I clicked on it and watched it. As I suspected it was a bit hyped up. However, … Continue reading Hiding in plain sight
Ten years ago this week I was living a most blissful life. I don’t like to use the word perfect, but my life was perfect. I had the most wonderful husband and was delighted to have many children. From both outside and inside we were living the perfect life. And as icing on top we had a big house to accommodate us and a big … Continue reading Ten Years
Sometimes, if I happen to think to check, after midnight I will look at my memories on FB. More often than not when a vague status is memorialized I won’t have the faintest idea what I meant when I wrote the words. That is not the case this time. A few minutes ago I went to my memories and came upon a status post that … Continue reading A thousand words
One thing the OW and I have in common is the sudden loss of something of which we were so sure. And while I’ve never discussed the “sureness” of her belief that my husband would leave me and go to her, I know by the language she used in her last conversation with me that she was, in fact, certain of her belief. And while … Continue reading He dropped my hand while dancing….and hers too
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