I didn’t think about the OW for over a week, maybe several, a new record for me.  Unfortunately it took the death of my dad to get there.  But, I forgot about her….completely.  Ironically, I would rather think of anything than losing my dad, thinking of her would be welcome right now.  Thinking about the affair would be preferable.  But, for some reason, even the … Continue reading Distraction

Just venting

My life has been stressful lately.  Fortunately, the one part of my life that hasn’t been stressful is my marriage.  My dad has been in the hospital for nearly two months.  Aging parents and dealing with the mortality of your parents is something that is hard to deal with I’m finding.  While the health part is going well, the physical therapy part is rocky.  Being … Continue reading Just venting

The Banyan

A friend of mine posted a picture today from their vacation of a tree with aerial roots that drop down and then replant themselves.  Eventually those roots become additional trunks for the tree, and with age those roots become indistinguishable from the main trunk.  Those additional trunks add strength to the tree.  And the more roots and the more expansion the greater the tree becomes, … Continue reading The Banyan

The story of the other woman and me

My story of the OW and me is odd and really bizarre.  But, here’s what happened to the best of my memory.  A lot of it is fuzzy these days.  If it makes you feel any better,  a lot of the things you think you will never forget you do. I found out days before my 18th wedding anniversary in February of 2011 that my … Continue reading The story of the other woman and me

A whirlwind

It has truly been a whirlwind few weeks for us, as in completely crazy.  Of course, the month of November typically is crazy for everybody.  We have had basketball tryouts and two soccer tournaments and preparing a Thanksgiving dinner for 15, and sitting with someone while they passed, a viewing, a funeral, a birthday party, and a full-on trip to the grocery store.  And, of … Continue reading A whirlwind