My husband wanted to surprise me today with a trip to a local resort. Unfortunately, it rained and kind of ruined his surprise. But, he did decide to take me there for dinner and we took a walk along the paths after. I remember being there right after it was over between them. I remember because she was headed to a Jimmy Buffet concert, and … Continue reading When the absence of her is loud
My husband and I have a few more children than the typical family has. And my husband has always been a great father. He always went above and beyond during my pregnancies, most of which were very difficult in the beginning, as i suffered with severe morning sickness the first three months every time but one. He took care of everything, any younger children, the … Continue reading I find Father’s Day difficult
My husband and I had a fight yesterday. Typically we avoid disagreements at all costs since the affair because things tend to escalate quickly and off-topic. However, this time we stayed on topic. I would say that’s a step forward that the affair wasn’t brought up in anger between us. I guess I should really say “brought up by me”. I’m trying to overcome my … Continue reading Overcoming the demons of an affair
Way back in January of 2013 (geez, has it been that long) after her surprise phone call to tell me she was still screwing my husband he came home. And sometime after he got here she texted me because she wanted the three of us to meet. She obviously was very confident that when face-to-face with both of us he would pick her. But, within … Continue reading Something I Missed
Today I found out a friend passed away. She was 48. A year older than I am. A few years ago she found out that her husband was having an affair. She had called me about it. Even though I was in the midst of the same thing, I said nothing. Although I consoled her and talked with her, and gave her the best advice … Continue reading I regret saying nothing
I’ve said it before, the domino effect is huge. The cost of an affair is much more than emotional. My husband had to work a whole lot of hours to get our pool back under control. There was a lot of bailing of very yucky water. It was awful. Then we had to remove the old liner, which was fine structurally, but stained really badly. … Continue reading Clean
I struggle with this everyday. The exhorborant lies that he told while he was having the affair were borderline professional. And this is one area where she and me are in the same boat, with the same holes drilled in the bottom. He lied and lied well to both of us. The funny thing was, we exchanged screenshots of texts with each other where he … Continue reading If a liar tells you he loves you, is he lying?
My husband and two of our kids were out of town this weekend. The perfect weekend for some down time and some reflection. After trying to get a lot of things done around our house and a some time spent with the kids it was welcomed. He was especially excited because they went to see his favorite band. This is the interesting part, this … Continue reading The Halo Effect