One of the hardest things in this whole affair ordeal for my husband was the work aspect. We have probably discussed the effects the affair had on his workplace more than the effects it had on us. Okay, that’s probably not true, but we have definitely had a fair share of conversations about the workplace and how the affair affected everything going on there. It’s … Continue reading Not without my Yoda
I admit I’m tired of being strong. I’ve been labeled by friends and my husband as strong and resilient. I’m tired of the those labels too. I’m tired of being commended for how well I can take a hit and keep going. I, obviously, never wanted any of those labels. I never wanted any of it at all. I would have been content to just … Continue reading Yield
Throughout the last ten years I have went through a myriad of the good, the bad, and the ugly. And throughout those years there were times when I did not know what emotion was coming next because I was snow-blind with them coming at me one after the other. I was sitting still, the emotions were racing toward me and around me, enveloping me in … Continue reading Sitting with your feelings
For the most part I do not actively think about the affair, and haven’t for several years. There are times when a memory will just randomly pop into my head, and then there are times when there is a trigger that will pop a memory into my head. Today I had to go to the other side of town to go to the bank. As … Continue reading Frenemy
As someone who loves hiking I have have full knowledge of the respect that you must give to the wilderness and the great unknown. You stay on the trail and you never leave the trail. It’s an important rule. And that works great when the trail is blazed for you and clearly visible. I have been on plenty of hikes in the mountains where that … Continue reading Leave a trail
If I had to guess, I would say in 2017 my husband and I both felt that our marriage was “healed”. Well, if you asked him, he would have said much sooner. In his mind it was over and done with and he had moved on. But, for me, it was around then. In theory, the affair ended at the end of January 2013. In … Continue reading Levels
Whether I mention it or not, and usually I do not, Bobbie frequents one of my other blogs that she knew about way back during the affair. I haven’t written in that blog for several years. She, however, visits it every single day without fail. I fully admit that I used to visit her blog every single day way back during the affair and on … Continue reading Baggage Claim
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